And – whoah!! – the word custody – does it bring such a tidalwave of emotions as a word.. But wait, it’s exactly like walking a tight-rope for the parents. And mostly what makes it difficult for you is trying to do the right thing while keeping the kids best interest at heart at all times, often times it takes a lot of persevering and then “why isn’t this any easier?” wondered over a cup of morning jo.

It wasn’t a hurricane that hit the living room the umpteenth time Bobby carelessly left his dirty socks lying around – but your usual day in the roller coaster adventure that is co-parenting. It could seem like herding cats to divide the parental duties. How we wish Johnny had that manual tucked in his pocket! However, as parents, we waltz our way through the pick-ups, drop-offs, birthday celebrations and that lovely yearly reminder that yep, “Finding Nemo” is held up chez your ex.

Now, here’s where things get a little more technical. Enter custody law and you’re swimming in a sea of provisions, clauses and agreements. It’s like a jigsaw puzzle without knowing what the final picture should be. Legal mumbo jumbo could make you break a sweat but take heed – many have tread this path before.

Now the emotional tightrope. Ever seen a parent to decide who gets Christmas morning? Not a pretty site. I have seen folks come to agreement over turkey dinners and late night carries a lot thrill in itself. Ironically, a little kindness, clear talk and definitely compromise do pay off weight in gold.

Even when the custody issues seem as weighty as ever, don’t forget about the happy moment. For every serious talk just remember the magic times – like when your little one sniffed out your old man’s lie during monopoly “Nice try!” Priceless moments those.

It may not be the easiest journey but what parent shies away from a challenge. Move on with a little humor and patience – maybe a heart to heart with a friend who’s been there before. ‘Cause really the biggest custody battle ever? The fight for those cuddles and bedtime stories. If only we could have them forever.